Hey there Reader,

We made it through another week! What are you celebrating about yourself today?

Are you heading into a weekend you’re actually looking forward to?

Are you working, resting, somewhere in between? Don’t forget the clocks are changing.

Today I’m wrapping up our month of boundaries content — and if you’ve loved this theme, don’t worry, it’s not gone forever.

I’ll be coming back to it.

But I want to leave you with one final reminder on what boundaries actually are.

Because even when we know about them, we forget.

Regularly.

Understandably.

Boundaries are the things that keep you safe.

They represent and protect your most valuable resources — your time, your energy, your focus, your space.

They mark where you end and everything else begins.

They’re as fundamental to a healthy life as water and oxygen. Without them, you cannot sustain yourself.

Now here’s the bit that I think sometimes gets a bit murky.

Boundaries are not about controlling other people.

I know, I know — sometimes you’re sitting there thinking, but they’re the problem.

And you might be completely right.

And the boundary is still yours.

You own it, you communicate it, you advocate for it.

You can’t though — and trust me, I have tried this more times than I can count — use a boundary to fix, change or manage someone else.

Every single time I’ve tried that, I’ve been the one who got burnt.

The moment a boundary stops being about you and starts being about someone else, it isn’t a boundary anymore.

Let me give you a real example. If someone is saying things around you that don’t feel okay, a boundary isn’t trying to get them to stop.

A boundary is: “If you continue doing that, I’m going to remove myself from this space.”

That’s yours to own.

That’s yours to action.

It meets your need — space from something that doesn’t feel good — without requiring the other person to do anything at all.

And yes, it’s a skill.

An uncomfortable, icky, genuinely difficult skill, especially if no one ever taught you how to do it.

My polite response to anyone who tells me otherwise is that I would graciously decline to spend any more time in that conversation, because their perspective wouldn’t align with mine — and if they weren’t open to a good-faith discussion about it, that is simply not my circus or my monkeys.

(See what I did there.)

Be gentle with yourself as you practice this.

You don’t know what you don’t know.

And the fact that you’re here, reading this, already thinking about it — that matters.

Tell me where you’re at with boundaries.

Are you just starting out?

Have you had a moment recently where you nailed it, or where it completely fell apart? I’d love to hear.

And get excited for Q2 — there is so much coming and I genuinely cannot wait to share it with you.

Best and brightest love.

Beth x

P.S. If boundaries are something you’re really wanting to work on — practically, in your actual life — the community is a brilliant space for that. Come and join us here.​