BETH THOMAS RECOVERING PERFECTIONIST Hey there Reader, We made it through another week! What are you celebrating about yourself today? Are you heading into a weekend youāre actually looking forward to? Are you working, resting, somewhere in between? Donāt forget the clocks are changing. Today Iām wrapping up our month of boundaries content ā and if youāve loved this theme, donāt worry, itās not gone forever. Iāll be coming back to it. But I want to leave you with one final reminder on what...
11 days agoĀ ā¢Ā 2 min read
BETH THOMAS RECOVERING PERFECTIONIST Hey there Reader, Can we just acknowledge how quickly the first quarter of the year has gone? Even for those of us who might be able to process time at the best of times, this year has started at a genuinely alarming pace. So ā how are you all doing? Because this time of year does something interesting for a lot of the neurodivergent people I work with. Winter hits us hard. The short days, the relentless grey, the way emotional regulation just quietly...
15 days agoĀ ā¢Ā 3 min read
BETH THOMAS RECOVERING PERFECTIONIST Hey there Reader, A few of you got in touch after last weekās email and your insights had me reflecting. Someone said they feel a common experience in relation to self-advocacy is people getting defensive whenever someone tries to be honest about their needs. That defensiveness often teaches us, through repetition, that it isnāt safe to have needs at all. This is so common. So lets talk about guilt and boundaries. Specifically, why setting a boundary so...
17 days agoĀ ā¢Ā 2 min read
BETH THOMAS RECOVERING PERFECTIONIST Hey there Reader, Well then, it has been quite the fortnight. A speaker showcase in Birmingham. A fully booked coffee morning in London. A brunch to talk nerdy about psychometric tools in Nottingham. A multidisciplinary training session in Shropshire on understanding autism and embracing neuro-inclusive practice. Just over a thousand miles in two and a half weeks, fitted around my usual workload. Iām going to take a moment to celebrate that, even if Iām...
22 days agoĀ ā¢Ā 2 min read
BETH THOMAS RECOVERING PERFECTIONIST Hey there Reader, If I ever used to need something, I'd whisper it. Well not literally... But Iād quietly say something like āI could really do with some support hereā¦ā followed by āā¦but honestly, donāt worry if itās too much, I donāt want to be a pain.ā And then Iād wonder why nothing changed. When you don't believe your needs are important, it can give other people permission to ignore entirely. There are always more important things to do. This is very...
24 days agoĀ ā¢Ā 3 min read
BETH THOMAS RECOVERING PERFECTIONIST Hey there Reader, On Wednesday I talked about something I was a little reluctant to admit... Poor boundaries that cost me money I couldnāt afford to lose. Today I want to do something different. Because as messy and uncomfortable as this boundaries work has been (and I have really not loved all of it), something happened this week that I need to celebrate. Tuesday morning, I delivered a mini 10-minute keynote at a coffee morning in London. And I nearly...
29 days agoĀ ā¢Ā 2 min read
BETH THOMAS RECOVERING PERFECTIONIST Hey there Reader, I keep coming back to boundaries. Not because I have it all figured out, but honestly, because Iām still learning the lessons myself. Trying to pick one story about my own poor boundaries is a bit like standing in a pick and mix shop trying to choose just one sweet. There are just too many to count. And now thereās one thatās very fresh, and very real. Over the last 18 months or so, not having proper work-related boundaries has cost me...
about 1 month agoĀ ā¢Ā 2 min read
BETH THOMAS RECOVERING PERFECTIONIST Hey there Reader, So here we are. End of February, end of the week, all in one go. How's your week been? Did you notice where your boundaries held, or where they didn't quite? I'd genuinely love to know. My week has been a good one, and I'm still excited about everything going on in the community right now. There are some collaborations in the works that are top secret at the moment ā and if you know me at all, you know how much I love creating things that...
about 1 month agoĀ ā¢Ā 2 min read
BETH THOMAS RECOVERING PERFECTIONIST Hey there Reader Happy Wednesday, and happy almost-end-of-February! I genuinely cannot tell you where this month went. January disappeared and somehow we blinked and February followed it... Make it make sense. But here we are, March is on us, Spring is creeping in (gingerly), and I canāt wait. Which leads seamlessly into: We talk a lot about neurodivergents struggling with transitions, and yes, sometimes thatās absolutely true. But sometimes a transition...
about 1 month agoĀ ā¢Ā 1 min read
